We are now taking applications for our third cohort, which begins September 13, 2013.
Students who apply and pay their deposit before April 1, 2013, will enjoy the current tuition rates.
Tuition rates increase on April 18, 2013
MN nurses earn 100% of their CEU requirements each academic year.
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Saturday, February 9, 1013
Saturday, March 26, 2013
Sunday, April 24, 2013
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MN nurses earn 4 continuing education units
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Wednesday, March 6, 2013, 7 PM Central Time, 5 PM Pacific.
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Love; Choosing True Love Over the False Ego
By Shelli Stanger Nelson, Founder and President
There is no human experience that trumps the ecstasy of falling in love. The event of falling in love is so real and visceral because of the cascade of changes occurring within the physical and energy dimensions as we take that tumble into bliss.
On a physical level, oxytocin is release from the pituitary gland in the brain. This “love hormone” has a wide range of functions within the physical body. One of the more compelling when describing how we feel when in love is that it promotes a sense of trust, safety and bondedness with others. Oxytocin is also released in mammals after mating. This amazing hormone continues to be released for some time after intimate encounters as well as during lactation, flooding the system with a longing to be in close proximity to our partner. Research shows that the quality of one’s desire influences the amount of oxytocin being released. The high levels of oxytocin in the early stages of relationship helps to explain why we feel so “connected” and so bonded and peaceful during the falling in love stage of relationship.
On the energetic level of human beings, the heart chakra, located between the breasts in the front and between the shoulder blades in the back, starts to expand. This expansion is due, in part, to a willingness to allow another’s energy into our own bio-energy field. As we open the front of the heart chakra we give and receive more love and compassion. As we open the rear aspect, we feel supported by another.
As the relationship strengthens, we start to build “relationship cords”. These cords are literally energy bio-plasma that we send between one-another. These energy cords do just what they imply; they keep us connected as we send emotions and thoughts through the relationship cord to our loved-one. The quality and permanence of the cord is determined by the length of time we are in relationship with the other as well as the quality of the emotions and thoughts being transferred through this energy stream. More on cords another time.
The initial emotions associated with falling in love are related to the expansion of the field, a sense of support and connectedness that has previously been absent, new energy entering our bio-energy field and the decadent bath of hormones that allow us to feel exuberant and giddy. And then comes reality. Soon this “honeymoon period wears off. Hormones return to a normalized state. The bio-energy field contracts and stabilizes. These are necessary balancing mechanisms so that we can go about our lives with a focus required for the task at hand. With the “love juice” reduced, how is it, then, that we can maintain fulfilling and meaningful long-term relationships?
We must understand that love is a choice, not an emotion. True. The opening of the heart chakra, the oxytocin release and the relationship cording are an instinctive drive. This however, is not love. Some call it lust. Others primal and others still, passion. But love, this is something one needs to choose moment-too-moment over the course of time.
In too many instances the decision to love or not to love is driven by the unhealthy ego. This egocentric drive says I’ll love you so long as you meet my expectations or fulfill a child-need in me that has been hurting. In the unhealthy ego we come to relationships with all the baggage of what we didn’t get as children from mother and father. We have an expectation that this new person will meet those needs. Unfortunately, this is an impossibility because we are no longer children. Despite the most gallant efforts on the part of our significant others, a sense of un-fulfillment often persists. All too often we fall into the destructive game of, “If I ask it’s not love and if I don’t ask, I won’t get it”, thus, we are paralyzed in a trap of dissatisfaction. We then all-too frequently say, “You don’t meet my needs” and set off to repeat the same patterns with yet another person.
Before consciousness occurs we enter into new relationships with images and beliefs that are formed early on about what men and women “should” be, what love “ought to” look like and how intimate relationships “ought to” function. In this state we tend to read our partner’s lips and not their heart.
Love is not an emotion. Love is a choice; a choice determined by the health of the ego. The more we come to realize the expectations and demands of the unhealthy ego, the more we can choose to put away trivial disappointments and expectations and instead participate in love in a mature manner. The mature ego does not criticize, does not judge and appreciates the other fully, faults and short-comings included.
The mature ego recognizes the voice of the demanding and hurting child for what it is; an aspect of the self rather than a deficit of the other. We can then shift from our small self to a larger self which chooses love over blame and disappointment.
It is only through the acceptance of love as a choice rather than an emotion, that we are able to relish in a committed blissfulness over the long term and know love in its truest and purest form.
If you are feeling a lack of love in your relationship, ask yourself, “Am I trying to get her/him to fulfill an expectation of my unhealthy ego as an admission to my heart? Have I chosen to see fault and allowed discontentment instead of allowing love?
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
The Bible, I Corinthians 13: 4-5